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Sunday, November 23, 2014

Why ashamed being a HOMEMAKER ?


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Females working in various sectors are now earning big income packages worth lakhs annually. Seeing this, most women consider themselves incompatible and second grade –in fact, they feel ashamed being called ‘Just housewives’.

The common reason for this is the misconception that most housewives are either engaged in feeding the family or they are busy ‘showing off their jewellery’ and gossiping whereas the actual situation is just the reverse. A large portion of women who remain at home, instead of going for nine to five jobs, engage themselves in taking care of family members at home , training the next generation for the LIFE. 

Long back, around nineteen years ago ,when I Left my permanent PGT teacher’s job from a reputed private school , many a people (including my mom, too) said, ‘ What’s the use of studying so much when ultimately you have to sit at home…… if you did some job that would have been better … that way you would have contributed significantly to family’s income’.…….. This statement still haunts my mind and forces me to think again and again, ‘whether only ‘working outside home’ adds on to the income of the family?’ 

Dear friends what is your thinking about this ?????? 

If you ask me ,then I’ll say that instead of direct income ,the indirect income which a Housewife earns, is better in many respects. 

Household management , children’s upbringing , looking after their food ,clothing ,illness education, etc besides their ethical character is always better in our own supervision rather than under paid help. This not only saves on money but also an investment for their better future. 

Lets for a minute think, keeping aside their contribution to family, about the WOMAN herself …… we will come to the conclusion that a female can ,if she so desires, groom herself better in areas of her interests, she can acquire and get skilled in various arts ,if the family supports her. This kind of additional creative abilities are mostly difficult, if not impossible, with a full time job. 

This can be illustrated with this example …. Most school teachers remain focused and busy in completing syllabus and while doing so they completely forget to judge whether their teachings are going to child’s mind or not ,whether they are performing their duty of wholesome development of their students or not …………? 

No , no we can’t be inhuman in expecting so much from these humble creatures of God. As the school would punish them if the students don’t perform and pass the school examinations, they would be least bothered , ‘if the child passes the life’s exam or not’. I do, 100%, agree that women posted on high levels would certainly earn money more than housewives , but for that how many compromises they would have to make in the life……. It’s very difficult even to imagine. It’s my request to working women not to take my words otherwise, as I’m just not intending to say anything against them. 

An educated woman does a lot for the family and herself even if she is not ‘working’. And she still can do more which could be much more on mental, and social level than just monetary contribution. I have worded the duties and glory of a homemaker in a composition …… and I feel that You all … would agree with the Candid Torch ….called Homemaker by all .. 

THE HOME MAKER>>>>> Nature ‘there’, Nurture ‘here’ 

Whether sweet or sour God takes care of child’s ‘nature’
Reins of ‘nurture’ are entrusted with the HOMEMAKER. 

Brahma, Vishnu, Mahesh, the divine Trinity, 
Looks after the world to retain its sanctity. 
No lesser is the role of a homemaker,
Howsoever, insignificant is ‘HER’ stature.

A loving kiss, patting cheeks and a subtle, gentle stroke, 
Thumping shoulders, a warm cuddle, a reassuring poke,
A stern command, burning anger ,a hard unwilling slap,
Such emotional TOOLS come handy to her at every step.

A great Feeder, a Cleaner, a Tailor, a Technician,
Launderer, Vigilant Supervisor and a Beautician,
A HOMEMAKER needs to be all in one, on toes 24 by 7
Always sublimated jack of all but master of none.

‘Greens’ brewing oxygen worth crores, taken for granted.
So is the tireless, humble HOMEMAKER goes undaunted.

With best possible use of time, one must not hesitate in going on for higher education or skill improvement courses. The inner creative points should be identified and effort should be done to sharpen them instead of wasting time inwatching futile tv serials for hours and hours . 

In addition, I would call upon male counterparts to come out of their indifferent attitude that their wives or the non-working females in the house ‘don’t do anything’. In fact they should also eliminate this so called ‘ Joru ka gulaam’ attitude and leave their false ‘EGO’ to help and support the wife to strengthen her positive and creative side. 

Dear friends, today at this juncture of my life when I stand and look back at me and my family , I assure you all that I don’t feel a damn that I decided to leave my job to become a full time HOUSEWIFE……….