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Wednesday, November 5, 2014

Relationship does matter …… a few golden rules

Life is love and love is life. Hindi cinema, largely, rotates around love stories. Stories involving heroes and heroines, mostly, struggling and fighting the families and situations, throughout the movie to have their love and get married. The movies mostly end at that with a slogan or ending ‘And they lived happily ever after.’ 

What a naked lie! That too, told so boldly. I and you, in fact , all are aware that the life or we can say ,the struggle actually begins and not end at marriage . People don’t understand that the amount of effort they had put in getting married is actually nothing in comparison to the whole hearted effort by mind , body and soul which is then required to keep the fire burning or to keep the river of love flowing between the ‘wedded lovers.’ 

No one is hundred percent perfect and none is fully misfit ,too. Its, as we name it ,the chemistry between the couple that needs to work. Also, it’s said that we need to take right steps to reach the goal but its also equally ,or even more important to take those right steps in ‘the right direction’. 

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Love is to understand each other , without deliberately changing the other . In one of my compositions ,I have said :- 

‘Tamanna tumhaari hi ki thee/chaha bhi tumhe hi tha/fir bhi tum ‘tum’ na rahe, isme tumhaari khta nahin.’ 

Meaning that over a period of time the spouses try to mould and change their counterparts and they themselvescomplaint about and regret the change later. 

Jagjit Singh, the legendary ghazal singer has also ,sung in one of his famous ghazal …. ‘Us mod se shuru Karen fir ye zindgi /har shay jahaan haseen thee /ham tum the ajnabi’ 

So ,dear friends I just wanted to be with you during the times of change ,especially the middle years of life, to chose ,exercise and experiment these following Golden Rules. I am the one who is advocating these rules but all must improvise the tips to suit their own circumstances. And, this does not , at all, mean that my life is a bed of roses but I ,too, confess that one or the other valuable tip given here ,some or the time , comes to our rescue to refresh ,smoothen out our relationships, rejuvenate us and to kindle a flame of longings and desires in times of need. 

• Let the dialogue be on always be it happy time or be it the time of conflicts. 

• Talk and share about each other’s strengths and weaknesses when you two are together. 

• Talk positive about your spouse in front of others. 

•Trust your partner and have confidence in your own love. 

• Celebrate each moment of togetherness and not just the occasions. 

• Don’t restrict the honeymoon to just a few days or a month. Let it continue for the lifetime. 

• Enjoy and celebrate each and every smallest achievement of either of you. Don`t wait for a big event to celebrate. 

• Spend time together to understand each other .Let the discussion be on on a friendly level. 

• Try and experiment the unconventional ways to do away with the routine or boredom. 

• Do take tips from others but improvise them to suit your own circumstances. 

• Be friends in a true sense and let the relationship be informal. 

• Let your attributes supplement each other. Partners should try to fill in the gaps in each other’s personality.//